It's 11 p.m. and you're replaying the fourth quarter for the hundredth time. You're not watching film—you're just spinning. That's rumination, and it feels productive but it's not. Reflection asks questions and looks for lessons. Rumination makes harsh statements and looks for blame. Here's how to coach yourself with clarity and direction instead of getting stuck in the mental loop that steals your energy and confidence.

If you've never doubted yourself as a coach, you either don't care enough or you're lying. Doubt shows up because you're invested. It's not a character flaw—it's proof that this matters to you. The coaches who question their decisions, who lose sleep over their players, who wonder if they could've done better? They're not weak. They're the ones who give a damn. Here's how to reframe doubt as the strength it actually is.

You know that voice that shows up after a timeout and says, "Wait, should I have saved that?" The one that replays every decision on the drive home? That's your inner critic—and it's not going anywhere. But you don't have to let it run the show. Learn how to recognize when it's talking, stop the spiral, and turn self-doubt into something that actually makes you a better coach.